From Never Enough to Joyfully Fulfilled
Have you had enough of not having enough… of not doing enough… of not being enough? Do you ever wonder, “How do I feel that REAL Joy anyway? Not the fake positive stuff… but the authentic joy that bubbles up and radiates warmth throughout life and relationships.
In this article you’ll discover three subconscious beliefs that keep most of us feeling unworthy, anxiety driven, or quietly (or not so quietly!) frustrated and confused. You’ll learn strategies and practice skills to help you break free from limiting beliefs so that you can experience your authentically joyful self.
1, A fundamental belief trapping most of us is that “I cannot be okay until someone/something/everything “out there” changes.” So I either wait for circumstances to change, or I try to force people and circumstances around me to change. Yikes! Now I’m in for a struggle.
STOP waiting for circumstances to change before you can feel better. Feel what you feel right now. Notice if you stay right in this moment you are okay. Practice being okay in this moment and stop trying to change anyone. The relief in that will give you a boost right away. To feel better, get better at feeling.
2, We have been conditioned to stuff our emotions. Emotions are Energy in motion… they are meant to move! When they get stuck they create dis-ease…mentally, emotionally, physically, and even spiritually. But we believe that if we let our true feelings show others will reject us…. we may even be in big trouble! So we stuff our uncomfortable emotions deep inside and try to hide them. With a whole storehouse of them stuck there, we may secretly feel that there is something so deep dark and horrible inside and if others saw it we would be abandoned. Shame keeps us stuck in the lowest vibration possible.
Shaming has been used as a tool to mould and shape children into personalities that will be accepted and approved of in our society. We become crusty and defiant or deny our emotions as we focus on projecting an acceptable image. The key to moving out of shame and to freeing ourselves from dis-ease is to allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to feel what we truly feel, and to share our honest feelings with someone who loves and accepts us. The more we honestly feel, the more we heal. Vulnerability is strength, not weakness. If I stop identifying with my image and start living from my Eternal self, what need to I have of protection? Matt Kahn tells us, “The most invincible are the most vulnerable.”
Ask yourself, “How willing am I to honestly stop and feel my true emotions?” Know that your emotions are indeed powerful, but not more powerful than you! Strengthen your sense of the “Eternal You” that notices your emotional state and feels the sensations in the body.
3.“I’ll “figure it out” is the third belief that keeps us stuck. Because we denied our feelings when we were little and because we live in a society that reveres thought intelligence, most people believe that they will figure it out. The trouble is, the mind just keeps spinning stories that justify and twist the uncomfortable emotion, usually reinforcing our righteousness in the situation. The ego does not want to let go of our righteous position and therefore no healing can occur.
We must go beyond the mind to the emotion and to where it is held in the body. The emotion is far more powerful and acts like a magnet, holding the thoughts in circulation. If we want to be free of the uncomfortable emotion we must let it go. We cannot let it go as long as we are caught in justifying how we feel. We must truly decide that we want to be happy and free of this uncomfortable feeling more than we want to be right!
So how do we let the emotion go then? The most powerful way I know of is to feel the physical sensations in the body associated with the emotion. Give that energy permission to release.
Instead of being caught in the pain, in the turmoil, you can learn to identify with the watcher… the part of you that notices what’s happening in the body. You can learn to connect with the all-powerful light that is inside of you…the still point within…that point which is undisturbed, calm, watching from a Soul’s Eye View. You can learn to relax into that space even in the midst of chaos.
Take a moment to connect with that point right now. Go inside and simply notice what you notice. Breathe. See if you can get a sense of who – or what – is noticing. Relax into that space and allow the body to have its sensations. (75% of pain is our resistance to feeling it)The more attention you give to this space the easier it will be to connect with it and relax into it even when emotional turmoil hits.
Another way to connect with this space is to notice the quiet stillness at the top and bottom of the breath. Even though the body continues to breathe, see if you can allow that stillpoint to permeate your consciousness. This is the space of True Power. In this space you are always enough. You are in the moment. The moment is complete… and you fill it with your Presence. You will never be enough in any other moment than this one!
You can only be Joyfully Fulfilled right here and now. “This moment is complete, and I am complete in it. I am enough!”