The Price of Peace

Maybe you've been there.... tiptoeing gingerly around your house trying not to set him/ her off!  Or worse, giving into buying her/him the chocolate bar or new shiny toy... not because you want to give him/her a treat... not because it's good for him/her... not because you can afford it... but because you will do anything to keep the peace in the middle of the department store!  

It was my super sensitive beautiful baby daughter who helped me realize that the more I tip-toed trying to avoid the blow up, the tighter she got wound and the more explosive the blow up. It wasn't fun... for anyone in the family. Then I saw this quote... "Parents who opt for peace at any price find the price of peace gets higher and higher." (Unfortunately I do not know where it originated but I am pretty sure it was someone wiser than I who wrote it... I was still stuck in trying to keep the peace!)  How true! It hit me like a lead balloon that is exactly what was happening in our family.  And that is what drove me in search of new ways to deal with disturbing situations and to stop playing that crazy game.

I learned to stand in my own power and decide what I will do... not what I will make my child do.  I learned to allow her to express her frustrations and hold her with compassion (although not necessarily physically). I learned how to find the peace within me even in the midst of screams and tantrums.   And I learned how to help her understand and deal with emotional turbulence.

This is exactly what you will learn when you read 9 Ways to Bring Out the Best in You & Your Child  available here.